Compatibility or Chemistry? What Parents Must Teach Young Adults Before They Choose a Life Partner
Compatibility or Chemistry? What Parents Must Teach Young Adults Before They Choose a Life Partner Have you ever watched a young adult become completely captivated by someone and wondered, What exactly do they see? As parents, it can be difficult to watch our children make relationship decisions based on excitement alone. We notice the red […]
The Conversation About Relationships That Most Parents Never Have
The Conversation About Relationships That Most Parents Never Have Your young adult will learn about relationships from somewhere. Make sure it is from you. Most parents avoid the relationship conversation. It feels awkward. It feels invasive. It feels like crossing a boundary into your young adult’s private life. So they say nothing. They hope their […]
Your Young Adult Is Choosing Partners Based on the Wrong Things
Your Young Adult Is Choosing Partners Based on the Wrong Things Your young adult thinks they know what they want in a relationship. They probably do not. Most young adults choose romantic partners the way they choose music. Based on feeling. On immediate pleasure. On what sounds good right now and perhaps because it is […]
How to Raise a Teenager Who Doesn’t Need You to Make Them Good
How to Raise a Teenager Who Doesn’t Need You to Make Them Good There is a fundamental shift that happens when a parent moves from trying to control a teenager to trying to develop their character. It is the difference between raising someone who behaves well because they are afraid and raising someone who behaves […]
The Legacy You’re Building Extends Far Beyond Your Teenager
The Legacy You’re Building Extends Far Beyond Your Teenager You are not just parenting your teenager. You are shaping the families that will exist because of the adult they become. Parenting is the most consequential work you will ever do. Not because of what it does for your teenager. Because of what it does for […]
How Discipline Builds Character Your Teenager Will Carry into Adulthood
How Discipline Builds Character Your Teenager Will Carry into Adulthood Imagine your teenager at twenty-five. They are in a conflict at work. They made a mistake. How do they handle it? Do they blame others? Do they hide it and hope nobody notices? Do they admit it and work to fix it? Do they ask […]
The Daily Moments When Your Teenager Builds or Undermines Their Character
The Daily Moments When Your Teenager Builds or Undermines Their Character You are waiting for the pivotal moment. The major decision. The crossroads. You assume that is where character is made. But most of life is not pivotal moments. Most of life is daily choices. What you do when nobody is watching. How you treat […]
You cannot build character for your teenager. You can only create space where they build it themselves.
You cannot build character for your teenager. You can only create space where they build it themselves. There is a tension every parent faces. You want to protect your teenager from suffering and failure. You also know they need to develop character. These two desires cannot both be fully satisfied. If you protect them from […]
The Discipline Conversation Every Parent Needs to Have With Themselves
The Discipline Conversation Every Parent Needs to Have With Themselves There is a moment every parent has. Your teenager does something wrong. You are angry. You want them to suffer consequences so they never do it again. So you punish. You ground them. You take away something they care about. You deliver a consequence designed […]
What you model speaks louder than what you teach
What you model speaks louder than what you teach Values transmission is not primarily about words. It is about witness. Your teenager learns your values by watching you live them under pressure. They learn what you actually prioritise by seeing where you spend your time and money. They learn what integrity looks like by watching […]